OK, got my morning beverage, time to get to work. Oh wait, first I’m going to throw on some Pandora. Hmm, says something about Facebook…eh, I’ve got a ton of email to read, figure that out later. Oh good, the Killers. Love this song.
Whoa.
Apparently Greg likes this song too. How does Pandora know that Greg and I are connected? Hmm, and what information about what me is going to show up when Greg goes to Pandora?
OK, starting to get a little creeped out, internet.
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This was my actual reaction upon my first foray into Facebook’s Open Graph. Working where I do, I like to keep my finger on the pulse of what’s going on out there on the internet, so I had heard a bit about Open Graph. But even after hearing about it, I was not prepared for how unnerving it would be to simply open up Pandora. I love Pandora, but that morning made me wonder if I should even be using it. And if I decide later not to have Pandora connected to Facebook, where do I go about undoing that? And why didn’t anyone ask me if I wanted this to happen in the first place?
Not being asked what I do and don’t want has been a common theme lately. Recently, I ordered some Mother’s Day flowers from a typical website. I SCOURED every page during the process looking for the automatically checked checkbox that says “please bombard me with email every two days about special offers until I am so sick of you I can hardly stand it” (OK, it doesn’t say that, but that is what I see). There was no checkbox. There was no option for it at all. OK cool, maybe I’m lucky and these guys get it and aren’t going to automatically opt me into a bunch of email that I don’t want.
Cue the emails.
Great, now I have to scroll to the very bottom of the page. Click Unsubscribe. Yes, attachments and links are OK, blah blah blah… Click Unsubscribe again on the landing page.
I’ll have to keep this in mind for next Mother’s Day.
Now on the one hand, if I had opted in to the email list and got one at, say Thanksgiving, I might think, “Ooh, since I’m not going to see my grandmother for Thanksgiving, I should maybe send her a bouquet to let her know I’m thinking about her,” then boom, very effective use of email. But sending me stuff two days later? With no new holidays in sight? I smell a lack of restraint, so I better unsubscribe now.
Finally, I went to buy a Camelbak this weekend at a retail store. The store had one of those sign up to get a discount card deals where you get to carry around a plastic card with all of the other discount cards that all of the OTHER stores make you carry around, not to mention the little plastic keychain thingies, and now you can’t even close your wallet or get it back into your purse and at every single store you go to you have to remember if you have the card or not and then try to figure out where in the heck you put it and WHY CAN’T YOU JUST GIVE ME THE $1.62 DISCOUNT???? And sure, you can say no, I don’t want the card. But they never just drop it on the first try. And the next time you walk in here, they’re going to do the hard sell on the card AGAIN so don’t think for a minute that this matter is settled by you already having decided that you don’t want one!
OK, sorry, that was a bit of a rant. But my point is this: I am much more likely to come back to your store if I don’t get asked about the card every time. I’ll even tell my friends about it if I just automatically get the savings without having to submit to junk mail and email and little plastic cards.
And I’d be more likely to sign up for floral updates if I know you’re reminding me about something useful instead of burying me in spam. Do you think I purchase flowers weekly? Then why would I need to hear from you that often?
And I’m a lot more inclined to remember the time you creeped me out on Pandora and completely rewrote my profile without asking me if I was OK with either, Facebook. And no, most people aren’t quitting yet. But we remember all the times you screwed up. We remember every time someone passes along a message urging you to go to your Privacy Settings and turn something off that you never turned on in the first place. We remember every instance of it, we store that away, and one day we’re going to be spending more time figuring out how to turn off things in your application that we don’t like than enjoying the things we do like, and that’s when we leave; is that what you want?
Consider your audience. Put yourself in their shoes. You know how busy you are and how much you wish everything could just be easier and less cluttered? Keep that in mind next time you come up with the next bright idea, and make sure your users have the OPTION to decide what they want from you, and then follow it up by respecting that.